Get Some Relationship Goals

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When I started my new job, part of the agency's new hire process was that each group of new employees had to attend half-a-day sessions for a week to ensure that we became acclimated to the building and familiar with agency procedures.  During one of the sessions the facilitator said,  "if you do not set a goal, you will work for someone that does".  The facilitator was saying this as a means to motivate us to not just work our new jobs in the normal day-to-day routine, but to professionally set a goal for ourselves that would carry us to the next level in our careers.

The same could be said for the romantic relationships between men and women.  If a relationship goal is only set by one half of the partnership the other person will undoubtedly just be going along for the ride.  Which could cause problems later on in the relationship when either, the other person decides to set some goals or discovers that all a long they were part of a twosome that is not meshing well for them.

When I was younger and in "relationships" the fellow and I may have mentioned marriage or exchanged an I love you here and there or even delighted each other with the thought of other future plans, but as I reminiscence on some of those relationships  I see that there were no actual, serious relationship goals that were set.  Some of it was just silly talk that I may have meant in the moment, but the guy and I were young and called ourselves being in love. 

Now, having grown up some I now realize that being in a relationship with no set goals is tantamount to a runaway train with no engineer at the controls.  Just coasting along and although the train may stay on the tracks for a little while eventually it will hit a curve and derail leaving destruction.

The good thing about goals is they can be acquired at any time, although if a person is currently in a relationship the other person may feel like the rules are being changed in the middle of the game and this could cause controversy.  So, if this is case each side should communicate their feelings and let the cards fall where they may.  If you are a person like me, that is single and waiting for a relationship, now is the perfect time to determine and sculpt your future relationship goals. 

Thanks for reading!
(John 3:16)