Mind Your Business

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A couple weeks ago someone told me about an article they read about two sisters.  For the sake of this post I am going to rename the sisters, Kate and Julie.  The main focus of the article was that Julie has been married to her husband for twenty-five years and her husband has only worked two years out of the entire marriage.  The other sister, Kate disapproves of the work situation in her sister's marriage and often complains.

The relationships between men and women are unique and have intricate dynamics only known to the parties involved.  Quite often we are on the outside looking in or only getting one side of the story when it comes to someone else's relationship.  There is no cookie cutter way that a relationship should process through.  In the case of Julie and her husband, maybe Julie had the better job, so it was more beneficial for the husband to stay at home.  Maybe Julie enjoyed being the breadwinner.  Or just maybe her husband was lazy and didn't want to work.  There are so many factors involved and although, I am sure that Kate's input was coming from a place of concern after she saw that Julie accepted the relationship the way it was she should have started to keep her opinion to herself and mind her business.

Of course, to some reading this post they will think that Julie is a fool to have stayed with her husband for so long and he's not working, but let's stay open-minded.  Now, of course, I personally would not want to be in this situation but my values and standards are different when it comes to relationships.  Not better, just different.  I use to think that if a man didn't do certain things or if a woman allowed herself to be treated a certain way within the relationship then the relationship itself was wrong.  The right way for a relationship lies in the standards and values of the people involved.

Remember, these are grown people making their own decisions and regardless of how us, outsiders, may feel it is their life and their relationship.  There are some relationships where the man wines and dines his lady or the lady enjoys wining and dining her man.  I know that it goes against the grain of societal roles laid out for men and women, but remember, if those two people are happy in their relationship who are we to comment.  I know as human beings it can be tough not to assert of opinions and views because we think that our way is the best way, but sometimes you just have to mind your business.

Thanks for reading!
(John 3:16)