Some people have been hurt so badly in relationships both romantic and non-romantic throughout their lives that they are constantly in a state of waiting for the other shoe to drop. This is an idiom that means to await a seemingly inevitable event. A person may not enter into a relationship wanting it to go bad, but they prepare themselves for what they feel will be a most certain end to a connection. Subconsciously performing early preparation for such a time will make the pain almost bearable.
A persons perception is their reality. Something that may be so minute to one person may mean the world to another. For example, I know two people that are in a relationship together, let's name them Person A and Person B. A few months ago Person A was celebrating a birthday and Person B in error accidentally forgot to give a birthday card to Person A in a timely manner. Due to this completely normal human error it caused a riff in the relationship because Person A perceived that Person B was thoughtless. Two different perspectives partly caused due to Person A having had past bad experiences in previous relationships took this incident as the other shoe dropping.
Waiting for the other shoe to drop is tantamount to carrying relationship baggage from one person to another. I've said it before and I will say it again, people are not perfect. We internalize this notion and know that it is truth, but we still want to project that on to some of the people that we meet. Maybe it is just a human thing.
By the way, the couple that I mentioned are still together and very happy.
Thanks for reading!
(John 3:16)
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