A few days ago I watched a video on YouTube of an old episode of Divorce Court that aired a few years ago. The couple was married for five years and were getting a divorce. I normally don't watch divorce shows because I do not believe in divorce, at least not in the casual way it is treated today. Anyway, when the judge asked the wife her reason for wanting a divorce, the woman replied that her husband was "too nice." The judge and the audience were baffled.
The "complaints" this woman had about her husband to a normal person sounded ridiculous. She stated that he would tell her he loved her at least twice a week and that he caused her to gain weight because he would cook full course meals for her not just during normal meal hours, but at 2:00 in the morning if she were hungry. The more this woman spoke the more appalled everyone in the courtroom became.
In my opinion that woman severely undervalued her husband. I'm not going to call her ungrateful because the rest of the world has done that already, but instead I feel empathy for her.
Not just that woman, or women or only men, but some people in general unfortunately become accustom to negative behavior and mistreatment within relationships. So much so that when someone good comes along that doesn't treat them in an ill-manner they will retreat rather than embrace the positive that has come into their life. People like this fail to realize that the people they are dismissing are the exceptions rather than the rule. Not that the rule of love is to treat someone poorly, but you all get where I'm going, right?
The way the husband was treating his wife was not something every woman or person within a marriage or relationship period gets to experience. Some people are not told twice a week that they are loved or even shown love within a relationship. They have the misfortune of having to wonder whether their spouse or significant other still loves them or will love them. For some women the only meal they eat at home is the one they cook themselves and certainly no one is getting out of bed in the middle of the night to cook a full course meal or anything to eat for that matter.
The woman on that court show truly couldn't take the time to enjoy the nice way her husband treated her because she was in a constant state of "this is too good to be true" and it caused her to mess up something that seemed good.
As humans we can be locked into a certain mindset that relationships are suppose to look and feel like all the other relationships we have had. As if relationships are all wrapped in the same packaging and this kind of thinking can lead to us sabotaging or not even considering a person that could be good for us.
Just my opinion.
*I would like to take this time to apologize for not posting yesterday, but better late than never.
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