Friday, January 22, 2010

I Think Therefore I Am

I was recently reading a book at work, to help pass the time called Skinny B***h. It was written by these two vegan propaganda broads, but anyway, the book was about how to get skinny and ways to get skinny. I took none of that away from reading the book, but what I did take away from reading was something one of the authors said at the very end which was "You are what you think". Which basically means if you think and believe something will happen then it will. Reality has nothing to do with it. The simple fact that you believe it makes it a reachable and tangible goal.
Apply that concept to your love life. Always think that your Mr./Ms. Right is right around the corner and that at the perfect time he or she will be revealed to you. You may not have someone right now, but its still early into the year and stay hopeful that your special someone is coming right for you. When you give up hope of finding love your thoughts and beliefs are no longer tangible and it is like a rose that has withered up and died. But if you stay positive your rose will continue to blossom and one day your special someone will come and pick your rose out of the garden of love.
Now don't get me wrong I'm not saying that just because you stay positive that automatically your special someone is going to be there on a white horse or in a Benz to carry you off into the sunset. I'm also not saying that your going to find your special someone overnight, but if that happens for you please invite me to the wedding.
For some we might meet a bunch of duds before we find our true love. To be honest it's nothing wrong with meeting a dud because it will better help you A) gain better standards and B) make you a better person for that special someone.
The phrase I think therefore I am comes from the Latin "Cogito, ergo sum" and it was first quoted by Rene Descartes and it simply means that if someone is wondering whether or not he exists, that is in and of itself proof that he does exist. I find that to be very fitting for the subject I am discussing now.
Your special someone is out there and for me I always say, God is preparing him and also preparing me for my special someone and I to meet. Maybe you should look at that the same way too.
Thanks for reading!
(John 3:16)

Sunday, January 17, 2010

First Date of 2010....Something New

Last night I went on my first date of 2010. It was good and I had fun, but I must admit I was nervous. When he first asked me out last Monday I was nervous not just because I would be going out with someone new but also because he is of a different race than me.
We were holding hands and my own paranoia for a short while took over because I have never dated outside my race before. I felt like people were staring at us and it eventually dawned on me that no one was looking at us or let alone cared that me and him were together. After a while I stopped looking at race and just saw a man. We laughed together and enjoyed each others company.
Race has never been an issue for me, but usually men outside of my race don't approach me probably for the same reason I don't approach them; we're both thinking we won't be into each other or we don't date outside our race.
I love men and race doesn't matter as long as they treat me the way I should be treated and are kind and possess the same values I have.
I will not be alone or let the man God has chosen to be my husband pass me by because I'm looking at the color of their skin instead of what's in their heart. Now that's not for everyone, but it works for me.
Thanks for reading!
(John 3:16)

Thursday, January 14, 2010


I was on Twitter a few days ago and someone had retweeted a person's tweet and it said: "If your not willing to sacrifice for a relationship then stay single". That started making me think. People say communication is key which is true, but in order to have an open and healthy relationship you have to be willing to sacrifice. defines sacrifice as: the surrender or destruction of something prized or desirable for the sake of something considered as having a higher or more pressing claim. Isn't your significant other considered to hold a higher claim to you in your heart? I'm not saying give up everything that you love just to be with someone but cut back on the things that you do. If you were going to the club six times a month when you were single then cut it down to 2 or 3 now that your in a relationship. But depending on how your significant other feels they may not have a problem with it. Or if you spend a lot of time with your friends then cut back on that to give your partner the time he or she desires.
Also if someone isn't willing to sacrifice for you and you notice your the one doing all the sacrificing then you need to take a step back and reevaluate the relationship and take a true deeper look at the person you decided to be with. We can all be fools for love, but then it comes that awakening period when we're no longer caught up in the whimsy of love. Reality hits us and for some of us it hits us like a truck going 90 on the highway.
Now there's a bad side to sacrificing. Sometimes people allow or pressure their partner into making them sacrifice family or friends or even their kids. When I describe sacrifice I'm meaning cut back not CUT OFF. Never allow anyone to cut you off from the people you love.
I hope for the people that read this and are in relationships you have a discussion with your significant other about sacrifice and have it be a peaceful conversation not a I gave up this and that for you kind of conversation.
For the single people like me I hope this gets ingrained in your minds for the next relationship you enter into.
Thanks for reading!
(John 3:16)

Saturday, January 9, 2010

Losing Hope.....NEVER DO IT!

All I can seem to think about lately is LOVE and finding the right person. My thought process on the whole subject matter is like a roller coaster. One minute I'm up and talking about how I'm willing to wait for that special someone and that he'll be coming soon and then I'm down thinking that I'll never find anyone.
I was down last night. I actually texted to someone that I had come to the conclusion that I would never have another boyfriend or won't ever have a husband. Even typing these words right now makes me want to cry. I did the one thing I want the people who are single NOT to do which is lose hope and give up on love.